Do You Really Want to Lead or Just Fit In?

Apr 8

I used to work myself to the bone—saying yes to every project, every client, every opportunity that came my way out of fear that if I didn’t, it would be my last. It was exhausting. I was building other people’s dreams—people who said they wanted to create conscious businesses but weren’t willing to stay aligned with the values they claimed to uphold. And trying to help them bring their beautiful ideas into the world while they resisted every step? Well, that drained me more than the work itself.

Sound familiar?

I was afraid to say no. Afraid to pause. Afraid that if I didn’t keep grinding, I wouldn’t be seen as successful, valuable, or useful. But deep down, I was unfulfilled and out of alignment. I was leading from fear—fear of missing out, fear of failure, fear of not being enough.

And then I read and actually practiced A Course in Miracles (ACIM).

I didn’t have any expectations when I first picked it up—just an open mind and heart. And I now believe that is the key to receiving exactly what we need, even if it's just confirmation of what we already know deep within.

I began to quietly—but profoundly—shift my mindset. Not only in my personal life, where I experienced a deeper level of self-awareness and healing, but also in my professional life as a transformational leader. It helped me let go of fear-based leadership and start leading with love.

I know that may sound “too woo-woo,” “hokey,” or even weak to some—but I invite you to suspend your judgment for a moment. Because I used to think the same thing. But the truth is, ACIM helped me become a more grounded, effective, and confident visionary leader.

As I dove deeper into its principles and daily practices, something beautiful happened:

I became a better listener.
I stopped taking things personally.
I learned to hold space with less (or no) judgment.
I became a clearer communicator.
I solved problems and made decisions more intuitively and quickly.
I created collaborative environments where trust and creativity could thrive.

I no longer work just to stay busy or feel productive. I work to create impact, to bring joy, and to have fun in the process. I’ve learned to honor my value and the loving, healing, and creative energy I bring into every room, project, and conversation.

Now, I only say yes to clients and projects aligned with my values. I take time to evaluate whether something feels right or not. I hold no judgment if it’s not—it’s just not for me, and that’s okay.

That level of self-love and self-trust has given me the confidence to bring new visionary ideas into form—ideas rooted in unconditional love, truth, and healing. Ideas that I believe are meant to lead the way in this Spiritual Age of Aquarius, where love will be the driving force for success and impact and technology will help deliver it.

I also now mentor only those who are ready for their breakthrough—people willing to do the inner work to become the best version of themselves. People who want to make a positive impact in their families, communities, and the world.

Here’s what ACIM taught me that deeply changed how I lead:

1. Lead from Love, Not Fear

ACIM Principle: “Love and fear cannot co-exist.”
Fear-based leadership thrives on control, ego, and defensiveness. Love-based leadership creates safe, trusting environments where people feel seen, heard, and valued.

2. Cultivate Emotional Intelligence & Self-Awareness

ACIM Principle: “I am never upset for the reason I think.”
Triggers and reactions reveal unhealed places within us. Leaders who can pause and reflect build trust and influence through emotional intelligence and maturity.

3. Model Inner Peace and Calm Authority

ACIM Principle: “In my defenselessness, my safety lies.”
Leadership isn’t about being the loudest voice—it’s about embodying presence. Calm, confident, grounded energy is magnetic and makes others feel safe.

4. Practice True Forgiveness

ACIM Principle: “Forgiveness is the key to happiness.”
Releasing judgment and resentment frees you and your team. Forgiveness makes space for healing, collaboration, and connection.

5. Guide Others to Access Their Own Wisdom

ACIM Principle: “I will step back and let Him lead the way.”
True leaders don’t dictate—they reflect others’ greatness back to them. They guide with compassion and trust in each person’s inner light.

ACIM redefined how I understand empathy and empowerment. I’ve learned to see beyond people’s fear-based behaviors—to witness them as already whole, confident, and resilient. I meet them where they are, loving them unconditionally without needing to “fix” or “rescue” them. I don’t look down—I lift up. Even if it’s only in my mind and spirit.

Of course, I’m still human. I don’t always get it right. But I’ve learned how to quickly course-correct—asking for and receiving forgiveness so I can move forward without guilt. I’ve also developed discernment: I can tell when an apology is sincere versus manipulative, and I don’t allow others to take advantage of my grace. That clarity is essential for leaders who want to foster safe, thriving spaces for growth.

Because real leadership doesn’t require perfection. It requires integrity, communication, empathy, and adaptability.

A Course in Miracles is ultimately a guide to mental and spiritual mastery. For me, it's been a path to leadership that is more loving, more impactful, and more aligned with the world we’re all trying to navigate and build.

So if you’re tired of leading from fear, burnout, and hustle—maybe it’s time for your own miracle, too.

If you’re interested in joining my ACIM Study Group starting in May, use the link below to register. The first month is Complimentary, so you can see if it’s a good fit for you, but you must register to attend! After your first month, there will be a nominal monthly donation suggested.

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