Do You Want to Be Right or Understand?

Feb 16

What if I told you, 'I'm not here to change your mind; I'm here to help you expand it'?

What if I told you that each of us is living in our own unique world—one shaped by our experiences, beliefs, and perspectives? That means, with nearly 8 billion people on this planet, there are nearly 8 billion different versions of reality.

A few years ago, I heard the spiritual teacher Mooji explain this concept in a way that deeply resonated with me. He said that because we each have unique experiences, we are simultaneously creating 7-8 billion different worlds. That realization changed how I see others. It helped me understand why people can have completely different perspectives on the same situation—and why trying to force someone to see things my way only creates more division.

But here we are, in 2025, still falling into the same trap—arguing, debating, and sometimes even cutting people out of our lives because they don’t see the world exactly as we do. Whether it’s politics, religion, or personal beliefs, we often get so caught up in being right that we lose sight of what really matters: connection, growth, and understanding.

Let Go of the Need to Be Right

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is this: Don’t let your need to be “right” get in the way of your own expansion.

When we approach conversations with curiosity instead of defensiveness, we open the door to deeper understanding. It’s our childlike curiosity that allows us to listen to different perspectives without judgment. And when we actively listen—rather than just waiting for our turn to respond—we create space for new insights, solutions, and even moments of peace.

Think about it: has anyone ever changed your mind by shaming, guilting, or arguing with you? Probably not. True shifts in perspective happen when we feel seen, heard, and respected—not when we’re pressured into agreement.

Finding Common Ground

Recently, I spent time with my family, including my brother and sister. We’ve had our share of heated discussions over the years, especially when it comes to faith. It sounds like the start of a joke when I say, “One is Catholic, one is Christian, and one is Spiritual,” but it’s the truth!

In the past, our differences led to tension, but this time was different. Instead of debating, we listened. We shared our experiences, our beliefs, and how each of us connects with God in our own way. And do you know what we found? Common ground.

At the core of it all, we agreed: God is love. We are here to embody that love in the world, each in our own way.

I left that visit feeling deeply grateful—not just for the time together but for the understanding we gained. No one had to “win” the conversation. No one had to prove the other “wrong.” We simply allowed each other to be.

Expanding Together

I go back to my opening thought: I’m not here to change your mind. I’m here to help expand it—if you allow me to. And I am more than willing to let you help me expand mine, as long as we approach each other with mutual love and respect.

We will never move humanity forward if we stay locked in cycles of division, refusing to hear different perspectives. The truth is, we don’t have to agree on everything to find common ground. We don’t have to think alike to respect one another. And we don’t have to see the world the same way to walk this journey together.

So, what if, instead of trying to be right, we tried to understand? What if, instead of arguing, we listened? Imagine the kind of world we could create—not one divided by beliefs, but one united by our shared humanity.

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