How to Heal Ourselves & The World

Jan 26

Have you ever paused to wonder why we judge others—or ourselves—so harshly? At the core of judgment lies guilt: the belief that someone, somewhere, deserves punishment for falling short. But what if guilt is not a truth but a misperception—a veil that obscures love, peace, and healing?

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Judgment begins with separation. It’s the mind believing it is apart from the one it judges, thinking punishment of another will absolve itself. This split is an illusion, a denial of our shared humanity and divine essence. When we judge, we aren’t escaping guilt—we’re clinging to it, reinforcing the walls between us and the love we desperately seek.

I know this truth deeply because I’ve lived it. I didn’t grow up knowing what unconditional love felt like. Instead, I learned about love through its absence—through the pain of feeling unworthy, judged, and disconnected. For years, I carried guilt like a heavy chain, believing I had to earn love or prove my worth.

But something changed when I made a decision: I asked to see myself, others, and the world through God’s eyes. Slowly, I began to understand that true love doesn’t punish, judge, or condemn. It accepts. It forgives. It unites.

The transformation didn’t happen overnight. I had to unlearn what love was NOT—control, conditions, or perfectionism—and invite the Holy Spirit to guide me toward what love is. I came to understand that God’s love for me was unconditional, and that realization shattered the guilt I’d carried for so long.

For the first time, I saw myself as guiltless, and that changed everything. I no longer felt the need to judge or punish myself or others. I began to see through the lens of love, with healthy boundaries to respect and honor myself.

This shift to being my most authentic self and allowing myself to be fully seen wasn’t always easy. Some relationships and friendships couldn’t withstand the changes in me, and I experienced painful losses. But those moments of letting go became part of my healing. They built up my resiliency and taught me forgiveness, self-respect, and the beauty of releasing what no longer aligned with my truth. These lessons became integral to my journey of self-love and freedom from guilt.

The peace and freedom I experienced were unlike anything I had ever known, and it rippled out into my relationships and daily life. My world began to shift. I found myself surrounded by a beautiful, diverse circle of friends. I have deep, meaningful conversations without the “need” to be right. People feel safe to be their authentic selves in my presence because they sense the peace and love within me.

The greatest gift of all has been learning to love myself. Being wholly authentic, guided by love, has been my path to healing. And I’ve seen firsthand how this healing is contagious—how love inspires love in others, breaking the cycle of judgment and separation. One of the most surprising and happiest outcomes of this journey? Rediscovering my child-like sense of playfulness and curiosity.

Healing judgment and freeing myself from guilt have made life so much more joyful. I am being, saying, and doing all of the things I truly love, without worrying about what others will think or say. That freedom has allowed me to embrace a lighter, more playful approach to life—laughing more, worrying less, and no longer taking things personally.

Where I used to let guilt or shame weigh me down, I now find myself able to laugh at things I once might have overanalyzed or let hurt me. It’s a freedom that feels expansive, and it allows me to show up in the world with more joy, peace, and authenticity than ever before.

The journey to doing away with judgment is not easy, but it’s possible. It begins with a willingness to let go of guilt and invite love to guide us. When we stop judging, we make room for healing—not just for ourselves, but for the world.

If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for H.E.A.L. - Harness Emotions with Awareness & Love, an 8-week program designed to help you release judgment, embrace love, and transform your life. Together, we can awaken to the truth of who we are: whole, worthy, and deeply connected.

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